words of wisdom

well i finally decided it was time to step out of my comfort zone and meet some new peeps.
i am a total people person, but i greatly struggle with worrying about what people think of me.
i think the inside of my brain would be like elementary school field day for psych workers.

so being in a new town and not knowing anyone stresses me out to the max.
but never fear...tomorrow night i am joining a bible study for ladies struggling with infertility.
i am ridiculously excited.

when you're infertilicious like me, it seems like a very lonely place to be. it's hard to relate to people because most people around you have no idea what it's like.
so i am just stoked to meet some people who know exactly what i'm dealing with.
and hopefully i'll get a few meaningful relationships out of it ;)

in the spirit of infertility, i thought i would do a public service announcement for all of us infertiliciously wonderful women and share things that you should never ever say to someone struggling with infertility or miscarriage.
  • Have you really been trying that long? (as in have you really been having ridiculous amounts of sex and hormones, or are you just "saying" you are infertile)
  • It's just not God's timing. (clearly it's not. thanks for stating the obvious)
  • I hate being pregnant. (i would love to feel the pains of nausea if it meant life was in me)
  • If you just quit thinking about it, it will happen. (8 years....trust me, that doesn't work)
  • I'm pregnant again....Ooops. (never, ever, ever say "ooops" when referring to a pregnancy)
  • You locked your cat in the closet by accident? Well then you have no business having kids. (your jokes about my "parenting skills" aren't funny)
  • Married ___ years and no kids! You don't want them? (why yes, as a matter of fact we do, but my body is incapable of providing one)
the list could go on and on. 
most people have no idea that the things they say are offensive, and us infertile women are super sensitive.
i love knowing that my friends/family are praying for me and offering uplifting thoughts. but sometimes the delivery of those "thoughts" can come across differently than intended.
the good folks at resolve have created this wonderful etiquette list that i'd love for you to read.
chances are, you know at least one person struggling with infertility, and this quick read really helps you to be the friend/family that they need so desperately during this hard patch of life.
trust me, i know. 
and i'll be sending it to my family! ;)


  1. AMEN!! Its also a picnic to explain that I never was able to have kids and i had to have my tubes tied.
    You will be the most fabulous mom in the world and i cant wait to be an aunt!

  2. Hi there! I have ventured over from the Mingling Monday blog hop. I'm enjoying this little peak into your world! Just lovely! XOXO, Mandi @ All My Happy Endings

  3. Email me if you're interested in joining a group giveaway that I'm hosting next week. First one goes live this Wednesday if you want to see an example before you commit.

    Email: mandi.hulse2@gmail.com

    XOXO, Mandi @ All My Happy Endings

  4. Thank you for sharing this and linking the article. I don't know what ignorant person would say things like that, but I know they are out there. I have friends struggling with infertility as well and I just don't know what to say. All I know I can tell you is you are in my thoughts and prayers:) Thank you for getting this out there for people to read!! :)


  5. So excited for you at your bible study! Will be praying for you. Love you!